Friday, November 17, 2017

RANDY RANTS ABOUT SEXUAL AGRESSION---AN ESSAY FOR THE LADIES

YES, I CAN SEE, YOU ARE ENRAGED AT SEXUAL AGRESSION AND YOU HAVE FOUND YOUR VOICE---AND UNITED---AND HAVE OUTED A FEW DOZEN OFFENDORS---AND ARE DRAGGING THEM TOWARD THE GALLOWS.

BEFORE YOU PULL THAT LEVER SENDING THEM TO THEIR VARIOUS DOOMS: PLEASE, ASK YOURSELVES THREE QUESTIONS:

1. WHAT IS THE REAL CAUSE OF THIS PROBLEM?
     It goes back a million years when our monkey-like ansestors were morphing into humans.
     Female sexual organs changed from OBVIOUS ESTRUS (sexual readiness--swollen rumps,smells and such)
     to HIDDEN ESTRUS---a big big difference--with this consequence:  HUMAN MALES CANNOT     
     EASILY SEE WHEN SEXUAL ADVANCES ARE WELCOME. we are left guessing.
     AND WE ARE (almost) EVER READY for sex.
     Remind yourselves that sexual advances---yes even agression was necessary for evolution to
     proceed.  Gentle lions have no offspring--nor gentle humans-to-be. We inherited this drive   
     naturally from the most agressive of our species.  If you cannot learn to appreciate this fact--
     at least acknowledge it.
     The sexual urges we males carry around with us ALWAYS, are ten times as powerful (I daresay) as
     those you occasionally feel.  It takes some effort to constrain ourselves.

     During the million year transition to human we forcibly took the sex we wanted.  It was the quickest, easiest, ( understandable ?) solution to our driving need.  We gave your feelings little thought.

     When agriculture, culture and civilization came along, we evolved some (moderating?) traditions
     but men still had the driving genes and so continued to agress against women in new ways.  5000
     years of this brings us to now.  We men still have our drive but you are ready to stop the agression.

2.  So I now ask a question that furious ladies seem not to ask:  WHAT IS A REASONABLE
     PUNISHMENT FOR SEXUAL AGRESSION?  Do you want to kill Harvey Weinstein?
     Remember that all us males carry his (type) of genes.   For perspective, consider cases of out-of-
     control anger--another evolutionary heritage.  We usually give agressors second chances--sentence
     them to anger management classes or porportional jail sentences.  I'm always stunned to see rapist
     sentenced to longer jail terms than murderers.

3.  SO WHAT IS THE FIX FOR THESE
     NATURALLY OCCURING DRIVES.  Can we have a reasonable discussion?

     Norwegian countries are well on the way to fixing the problem.  For example:
     Girls are given special classes in understanding, deflecting, dodging male sexual agression.
     They are clearly apprised of the strength of male lust.  I heard one such class where the girls are
     bluntly told the evolutionary truth about the huge disparity of lust and agression between men and       women.  Men, they said, will lie, cheat, promise, deceive, manipulate, badger you for sex.  They are wired
     that way.  Your task is to intelligently deal with this huge disparity of desire and only have sex when you feel you are ready.  Then they show
     them lots of ways to do this.

     I think the boys are given classes too---approximately saying to them:  Gentlemen, we have
     inherited some powerful feelings.  We must learn to control them.  It is the right thing to do---and--if we don't--- society will put us in jail.
     Here are some suggestions: Upgrade your charm, learn patience, learn to win a lady's favors, masterbate etc. (sounds
     reasonable to me)

FINAL PHILOSOPHICAL WORD:  In reviewing my last 40 years of sexual activity  I have developed some sympathy for the Weinsteins, Clintons, Kennedys and others who've gotten their hands caught in the cookie jar.  I'm happily, not in jail-- and determined not to cross the line of unwelcome advances.