illustrated. A volunteer was asked to pretend that being at the opposite wall was more important to him than where he was. He ran over there. The trainer explained that we had just witnessed a GAME being played. A game is a situation where what IS NOT is declared to be more important than WHAT IS. You are playing a game when you are MOVING toward what is not. (understand that even reading a book is movement in a game)
LIFE IS A GAME--he declared--where we are all pretending that what is not--is more important than what is. ( It may or may not be more important but It is necessary to pretend that it is in order to get movement in our lives.) WE NEED MOVEMENT TO GENERATE MEANING .
MEANING IS A FEELING OF ALIVENESS, PURPOSEFULNESS AND CONNECTION THAT EXIST ONLY BETWEEN THE BEGINNING AND END OF A GAME.
Notice that movement makes waves--like a boat moving through water we make waves when playing the games of life, Waves are the consequences of our action in the real world. Waves are our contribution to the world---a by-product of playing our games.
IT IS BENEVOLENT IRONY THAT BY PLAYING THE GAMES THAT CREATE MEANING FOR US, WE CAN MAKE OUR BEST CONTRIBUTION TO THE WORLD
ANOTHER TRUTH THAT HAS BECOME OBVIOUS TO ME IS THAT WE GAIN A LOT OF JOY BY BEING WILLING TO PLAY OTHER PEOPLE'S GAMES.
And then the training was over. A thousand former graduates surged into the room applauding us and we them. It was a great moment. No one asked for their money back. I consider it the best $250 I ever spent.
Then we were sent out into the world with a book of aphorisms like these to keep in mind:
WHAT EVERYONE WANTS IS LOVE, HAPPINESS, HEALTH AND SELF EXPRESSION.
LOVE IS A FUNCTION OF COMMUNICATION
HAPPINESS IS A FUNCTION OF ACCEPTING WHAT IS.
HEALTH IS A FUNCTION OF PARTICIPATION.
SELF EXPRESSION IS A FUNCTION OF RESPONSIBILITY
YOUR ONLY ACCESS TO IMPACTING LIFE IS ACTION, THE WORLD DOESN;T CARE WHAT YOU THINK, WANT, FEEL----IT ONLY MOVES WHEN YOU ACT
LIFE IS A RIPOFF WHEN YOU EXPECT TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.
LIFE WORKS WHEN YOU CHOOSE WHAT YOU GOT;
ACTUALLY WHAT YOU GOT IS WHAT YOU CHOSE;
TO MOVE ON----CHOOSE IT
WHATEVER YOU ARE PUSHING AGAINST, YOU ARE STUCK TO.
UNTIL YOU'VE COMPLETED YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARENTS---ALL YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WILL BE ABOUT YOUR PARENTS.
iF IT'S COMFORT YOU WANT--LIFE IS NOT THE PLACE TO BE.
OK That;s what I have to say. Now I want to ask you: Who delivers the best wisdom--the religious gurus or the secular gurus?