Sunday, September 03, 2017

DEATH BY CHOICE---A GOOD FRIEND TAKES HIS LIFE

My dear friend and fellow blogger Wayne Wirs took his life yesterday in one of his favorite camping spots along the Green River near Le Barge, Wyoming.

I met him in Aug of 09 in Portland, Oregon when he came down from the mountain to meet me and discuss the pros and cons of living in a trailer.  We quickly got philosophical and never stopped as we reconnected many times in the coming years.


Here, we connected in Salida, Colorado 2 years ago.  A few days ago we made plans to connect in Wyoming after the eclipse.  I lost computer service for awhile, then yesterday I received the same sad notice that all his friends received:  "See you soon".


Click HERE to read one of the greatest suicide notes ever written.

RANDY PHILOSOPHIZES: Here's my take on this extraordinary man and his extraordinary death:

1, HE WALKED HIS TALK.  He said he would do this willingly when he felt the moment was right--and he did!

2. HIS BOLDNESS AND COURAGE  WILL REFRESH  DISCUSSION OF A GREAT MORAL QUESTION: DO WE HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE THE MANNER AND TIME OF OUR DEATH.

3.  HE INSPIRES ME TO DIE COURAGEOUSLY BY MY CHOICE WHENEVER I WISH.
( Though I must admit that we also hurried to contact the authorities in his area when we read his note)

4.  HIS INABILITY TO GET HIS PAIN ALLEVIATED AT THE VA HAS INSPIRED ME TO BRING THIS INCIDENT TO THE ATTENTION OF THE VA REQUESTING THAT THEY REEXAMINE THEIR PROCEEDURES IN DEALING WITH SUCH CASES.  Did they take his complaints seriously---or just dismiss him with a handfull of pills?

5. I HAVE RESOLVED TO ASSEMBLE  THOSE WHO LOVED HIM IN A CELEBRATION OF HIS LIFE THIS WINTER AT THE RTR (Rubber tramp Rendezvous) at Quartzsite, Az.

6. I TAKE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO CONSIDER AND REVIEW HIS BASIC IDEAS:
     A. Perhaps there is a God---who loves us.
     B. Attempts to communicate with us directly---often through synchronicities.
     C.  Perhaps we are an immortal soul inhabiting a body.
     D. Perhaps we will be reincarnated after we die.
     E, Perhaps God wants us to live happy and fulfilling lives and guides us when we are receptive.

Wayne was not alone in his beliefs.  Here's what my favorite poet, Walt Whitman had to say on the subject of death:

"As to you death, you bitter hug of mortality,
It is idle to try to alarm me.
No doubt I have already died many times before.
I wish I could translate the hints about those dead young men and women,
and the hints about old men and mothers
and the offspring taken soon out of their laps.

what do you think has become of the young and old men
what do you think has become of the women and children?
They are alive and well somewhere.
The smallest sprout shows there's really no death
All goes onward and outward and nothing collapses,
and to die is different than anyone supposed.

Has anyone considered it lucky to be born?
I hasten to inform him or her that it is just as lucky to die.
And I know it.
I do not know what is untried and afterward
but I know it is sure, and alive and sufficient.
Do you see oh my brothers and sisters, it is not chaos and death,
It is form and union and plan,
it is eternal life, it is happiness.


24 comments:

Sondra said...

Aw damn, I saw his last blog pop up but I put off reading it till now...so sorry. As you know I worried about Wayne a few years back when he gave away all his belongings....but I was happy for him that he ended up on top again, he continued to stick to his beliefs and I admired that in him. I do hope he is with Her.

Cherokee Poya said...

I am so sorry to hear this news. I admire you and your tribe of friends greatly! I hope to meet you all someday at the RTR. Please take care, and focus on the good.

Anita said...

Randy, the VA didn't give him pills. They must have thought that he was just trying to get oxycodone and didn't believe how
much pain he was in..Pain is not always or even usually visible and they certainly failed him.. Many people have a true need
for pain killers, my daughter among them..It doesn't mean that they are trying to get "high", just that the pain is too much
to manage....

Jeff said...

Respects to your friend, but suicide is almost always a selfish act, especially if one leaves family behind. Best to his mother.

Anonymous said...

Jeff, I agree.

Anonymous said...

Having to take Wayne at his word, he lived a fine life by his own account, full and loving with many friends, and having thought about it decided to end at this particular time. I wish I knew whether he tried cannabinoids though.
Dying may be an illusion, and living too. We'll all find out by and by.
RIP.
Bushman

VtChris said...

I remember Wayne well. A seeker. A smart man. Independent. He was a true believer. He will be missed by many. My sincere condolences to his family and to you Randy.

Cargo Camping Dan said...

RIP Wayne.

Cargo Camping Dan

Mike said...

Sounded like a great guy. Sorry his life ended this way especially when modern medicine was not made available to him.

Debbie said...

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I enjoy reading your posts and all your musings. It's sad he wasn't able to get any relief from his pain and he felt this was the only cure. But after watching my mother deteriorate from cancer after a year long battle, I agree we should be able to live and die on our own terms. {hugs}.

Hawkcreek said...

It looks to me that he gave up a little too easily, for it to be caused primarily by pain.
I think that possibly the lack of human connection (typical of a lot of nomads) had as much to do with it as the hip pain.
It gets lonely on the road.

TheVideogirl1952 said...

If I had the pain he was describing, which I did with a tooth, I would of done the same thing. The pain I had was so excruciating, if I had that any where in my body and nothing could be done, I would of done the same thing. I just happened to be in a dentist chair and the doc was working fast. You can have this kind of pain anywhere in the body. I do not see his decision as a selfish act. When a person is on a really tight budget as it sounds like he was on, medical marijuana is not affordable. When a person gets older, the body changes and pain becomes more intense and there are many reasons why. Having accidents with injuries are completely different when you are over 50. Even if you could get all the opioids you wanted for this kind of pain, you would be so doped up you wouldn't be able to drive or function and survive. I know about these things, I use to work in a few hospitals.

Jeff said...

Pain can *always* be treated. Now if he didn't have any money, that's another issue that frankly was his own fault, but it's not because the pain *couldn't* be treated.

Hawkcreek, agreed.

Laurie said...

I was stunned when I found out that Wayne Wirs, a friend and fellow nomad, spiritual teacher and mystic without a monastery died by his own hand after experiencing intractable physical pain.

I spent a summer getting to know Wayne when he would meet up with 'The Quest for Community Caravan' that I was co-founder of with Randy at the time so I was shocked and saddened to hear this news!

Even when we are spiritually aware and know death is a transition to another state, when we lose a loved one, the pain of loss touches the heart and leaves a void. I'm sending Waynes friends and family loving thoughts, blessings and comfort as they navigate the news of his death.❤️

Laurie

Page said...

I have been following Wayne for several years via his blog and writings and participated in a few of his online experiments. I am sad that I will no longer receive his latest spiritual teachings.

I only wish he had been able to find relief for the physical pain that tormented him. Damn the VA!

Wayne, I hope your reconnection with Tao/Her/Source was joyous.

Anonymous said...

It doesn't make sense to me. If he was so enlightened, why did he run out of money? Money is not that hard to obtain (and keep) in this great country. It just takes perseverance and enought smart decisions. If reincarnation was such a sure thing, couldn't it wait for another 20+ years?

Yes, I'm qualified in case anybody wonders. I'm 2 years older than him and have been traveling the world for the last 18 years, the last 17 months in a van touring the US.

Rob said...

I read his letter, the man had faith.

I also read the comments... we are each given a life to live it as we will, Wayne did.

Patt Ladd pattladd1954@gmail.com said...

Please be open to hearing my truth. Pain can be an all consuming drain on your body, and your mind. I have lived with this truth for over 30 years. Whether it be a constant, never ending source of irritation, or the all encompassing excruciating pain of a flare up; pain is indeed a valid reason to choose death.If I believed that I had lived a life that fulfilled God's reason for my creation; I too, would choose the death of this torturous body.
I invite you to watch an interview that Wayne did with Buddha at the Gas Pump. If you listen, (as a believer or not), with an open heart; only then will you know that Wayne was NOT at all alone, or lonely.

Patt Ladd pattladd1954@gmail.com said...

Absolutely, pain can be treated. IF a chronic incurable pain sufferer can get access to narcotics, neuropathy meds, acupuncture, physical therapy, and counseling; it can be endured. At what cost? The freedom to live outside of this box, and all it's stuff? Just try to get opioid's today. Or get insurance to pay for acupuncture, or other alternative medicine.

Jeff said...

Best to his mother (and brother). Having a child die first is a parent's worst nightmare. One that she has to carry the rest of her life.

G said...

Sorry for the loss but reading the story many things just don't add up so I am very skeptical. Sounds to me he was finished livIng in this world and he was looking at any excuse to end up. He said it many times in his post that he always looked forward to dying and that he was done with this world and his physical body.
I lived with severe sciatic pain for over a year until it finally ruptured and required emergency surgery. His death was preventable he just chose the easy way out so his family can now wonder for the rest of their lives if they could have done something to have saved him.

Susan said...

I never met Wayne in person but I read many of his articles, as you talked about him frequently on your blog. I did shed a few tears as I read his suicide note but also sensed he was at peace. His decision makes sense to me. I am all for humans being able to decide when they need to be released from their earthly bodies. Thank you for sharing about Wayne.

Susan

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Jeff said...

Exactly G