Here's a few more.
1. The hyper rush of sharing.
Lured away to Mexico by an old love living there--I went down to heal her broken heart--leaving my current lady twisting in the wind. (nice story in itself--the Mexico lady--she lusted for bullfighters--moved to San Miguel de Allende---got one---got two---was disappointed with both---unsatisfying lovers--their stomachs a mass of ugly scars---from bulls horns--and their penis's not matching their courage--their ego's unbearable---she jettisoned them and took up with a cheese seller---who broke her heart)
My work done--I returned to New Orleans to find my lady sleeping with one of my friends. OOOh the pains of hell----FOR AWHILE---like a sledge hammer to the gut and then it slowly went away. We three conferred and decided to share the lady on alternate days. She slept with me on Mon, Wed, Fri and him on Tu, Thurs, Sat. Sunday she slept alone. She did this for a month then quit--choosing to be with me---said of the experiment: "It was thrilling for awhile but became exhausting---That her lovers were like rival bulls trying to outdo each other." From my perspective it was hyper exciting. On my nights I would quiver with anticipation---find great joy in pleasuring her--exhaust myself in ecstasy. In the months afterwards-- when our passion began to cool---I would urge her to find another lover to "threaten me with" and bring back the hyper sex. We lived together for 5 years. (Miss "L" if you read this why not comment anonymously on your memory of this experiment )
2. Barroom strategies:
I've done some of my hardest thinking on this subject. Here are my conclusions: Three elements to a successful connection in a bar: a. Show some--but not too much--interest.
b. Display credentials---subtly--like speaking intelligently.
c. Display aliveness---(your playful child persona) "promise" fun.
Turns out someone has written a master work on this subject: Neil Strauss's book: THE GAME.
3. Contractual relationship:
I did this once---With the lady who went off to Mexico. We read a book on contractual marriages and decided to try a contractual relationship---spent some time carefully drawing up our wants and then signing a one month contract. Think we renewed it once. Have forgotten what ended it---Oh yes--she moved off to Mexico.
4. Wrote a poem to men from "Mars"--explaining those "ladies from venus". All in good fun but containing seeds of truth.
PREVIEWS OF COMING POSTS: I think I will wrap up this personal history segment with a few more experiences from my thrown away life that you may find hard to believe--like an interview with Rev. Moon---founder of the moonies---and with Mrs Tanner--Brigham Young's granddaughter. Then I hope to make explicit the point I've been hinting at--what my life has to do with yours. When I've done this I will tell you what I've been doing in the past month.